Diary

I need to vent so I came here... There's a girl I know who I've known since freshman year. I've liked her for three years and asked her out in October. She said yes and we've been together since then. Problem is about a year and a half ago, we had a fight and she told her mom and she bashed on me hard. Her mom hated me. When I asked her out, she never told her mom. Time passed and we hung out a few times (once even at her house). We did couple stuff and she kept a diary about everything we did. Today her mom found her diary and read it. We have done things that a mother would not like. The thing is, I love this girl. A lot. She isn't just some sex doll or anything like that. She is perfect and I need her in my life. Her mom is crazy and is threatening to take her out of our school and get a restraining order on me. I don't know what to do. I feel powerless. Like, I can't do anything to change anything. That's it.

Overthinking

Over-thinking usually happens when you care a lot about something. Whether it is a girl, your safety, the consequences of yours or somebody else's actions, over-thinking just happens. It happens because we are scared of the unknown. We try to analyze the situation to the fullest.

"Why did this happen?" "What could I have done differently?" "What would he think?" "Is she thinking about me?" "Oh god, I messed up didn't I?"

It happens to all of us, more or less. To figure out the unknown and run through the scenarios in our mind for a time. It kills us inside when it happens. We become stressed and don't think straight. It can lead to doing stress-relieving and sometimes reckless things: drinking, smoking, having sex with strangers, playing basketball, talking to a friend, going on a run around the neighborhood, blowing up on a friend. Some of these activities will get your mind off of things...for a while, but the best way to handle these type of situations are to either do what you think will change what you are thinking about or to accept it for what it is. We all eventually have issues that we think heavily about. It's how you handle those issues that define you as a person.